Complainers, victims & venters are attracted to others generating the SAME vibrations they are. They feel compelled to seek out others who will allow them to stay within those destructive vibrations for as long as they can manage to until they are forced out of their bad mood by chance happenstances that rarely arrive.
So if you've attracted into your life a friend, partner, lover or whatever; who complains or vents a lot, it's not their issues you should be concerned with.
Simple OBSERVATION is all that's required to see this is true.
Just observe what happens most often when these individuals come to you.
And when they come, just allow them to start any conversations or interactions in whatever ways come naturally to them.
However they feel naturally inclinded to interact with you, is an indication of where you are in your own vibrations.
If, without your input, they seem to talk about many lovely things, then that's the vibration you are in also. And if this is the case, you really are silly for thinking to read thispost right now 😆
Alternatively, if when they come to you, they most often is complain, vent, or spin other yarns of victimhood; it becomes very clear that YOU have a problem.
You are vibrating in alignment with the same energies you're attracting. Vibrations which are controlled by the thought-stories you're allowing to swirl around in your head. When you allow those swirling stories to narrate your victimhood, dis ease, dis comfort, or lack; the same energy is vibrated right back at you in the form of other people who can sense and are naturally attracted to you disaligment.
It's a simple equation really:
When you're feeling like a victim, you attract others who feel like victims.
When you're feeling like other people or circumstances are horrible and unfair, you attract people to you who are horrible and unfair, and think everyone else is horrible and unfair; including you.
When you allow yourself to give in to your trained habit of feeling obligated to be a "good listener" to anyone 'in need', you'll feel like you're being stepped on by ppl who can't ever seem to stop complaining about feeling stepped on, while they're in the process of walking right over you.
Sometimes these thought-stories can get so much momentum going, that you start feeling like you're not even getting enough freedom to really feel like the unpowerful victim you know you are 😘
I'm sure you get it.
You get what you give, receive only what you allow & experience only that which you practice most often.